My Sister's Keeper 2007

We all know that we want to be good wives, but what is it going
to take from you? What exactly is a good wife. Being a good wife
not only means praying your 5 daily prayers, looking nice for your
husband, cooking him dinner, and smelling good but it also means
KNOWING your husband. Know what he likes and dislikes, know what issues he is sensitive about, know what relaxes him and what makes him uncomfortable. And after you do all of that, act on it.

Make him his favorite dishes, wear his favorite style of clothing, dab on his favorite scents, make him put all of his daily worries aside

when he comes home. Let him know that of all the things in the

world that are not constant, he can count on you to be a wonderful

wife and companion every time he is with you. Make it so that you

are on his mind whenever he leaves the house. Make him want to

rush home to you just to see what you have in store for him that day.

The problem with some of these things that I have mentioned is
that many of us have it in our minds that to do these things for our
husband is a sign of weakness. We let others creep into our minds
and tell us that "we don't have to be a slave just to be a good
wife." Well, I'm here to tell you to BE A SLAVE! What do those
other people know about your house? What do they know about

your relationship with your husband? How is their relationship with

their husband? Do they even HAVE a husband? Where is their

deen?

An-Nawawi said in his book, 'Riyadh as-Saliheen', 'Know that

everyone should only talk about what might lead to benefit.

When talking and being silent are equal in benefit, then the

Sunnah is to be silent. This is because to be talkative will

usually lead to uttering evil, even if it starts with seemingly

harmless words. One should always be on the safe side, a

state that is indeed desired.'

*If their talk does not benefit you, leave it for something that does.*

You do what you want to do to please your husband (whatever is
halal of course). Get your pride out of the way. Set aside those
thoughts of being run over by your husband if you show even the
smallest sign of so-called "weakness." If you thought that you were

going to cook and clean and be pretty for your husband when you

got married, then DO THAT! Don't NOT do something for your

husband because he likes it to be done (another mistake we make

sometimes-just being plain old spiteful). These are all mind games

and I doubt if we have much time in this life to play around.

By doing what your husband likes as long as it is halal is the Sunnah

but if you enjoy what you are doing and stop listening to all the

negative "slave" talk around you, you will begin to enjoy an even

happier life with your husband...better than you could probably

imagine. Now doesn't that sound wonderful? Make Allah happy,

make your husband happy, make yourself happy, and if there are

any children involved, you set a wonderful example of how married

life should be and you become a better person for your kids to be

around.

Just think about it. Give your all today. Tomorrow is not
promised. Even if your husband takes advantage of some of your
kindness, you have still pleased Allah and you will receive
blessings for it. Now who is the loser in all of that? Just asking.